Let me tell you, your level of confidence in yourself as a homeschooler when you’re just starting off isn’t indicative of how successful you’ll be as a homeschooler.
If it was, I wouldn’t be starting my 15th year homeschooling. My son would’ve been enrolled in our local public school for the 2004-2005 school year.
I wouldn’t be able to tell you with 100% certainty that homeschooling my kids has been the best thing I’ve ever done as a mom, and I wouldn’t trade these years I’ve had homeschooling my kids for anything in world.
I started off as a reluctant homeschooler, just dipping my toes into it to see if it was something I could manage to pull off. It wasn’t very long before my confidence was shaken to my core, and I was thinking I’d either have to do a complete overhaul in this homeschool of ours or I’d be joining the ranks as an active member of the PTA the following school year.
Over the years I’ve been homeschooling, I’ve come to believe there are certain personality traits that successful homeschoolers embody.
Here are five:
There’s a big difference between wanting to homeschool and actually doing it. That difference lies in execution.
You have to be able to make decisions about how you’ll homeschool, which resources you’ll use, what kind of schedule or routine will work best for your family, and then actually take action.
I mean, this one should be obvious. In fact, please don't homeschool your kids if you don't genuinely care about their education. You will make the rest of us look bad.
Your first year homeschooling is probably going to be, well, “bumpy.” Things aren’t going to work. Things aren’t going to go according to plan. Expect it. Then get over it.
Don’t waste your time wallowing in insecurity or failure. Keep your eyes on the possible solutions. Keep trying solutions until one sticks for a while. The be prepared to do it again when that life throws a monkey wrench into what had been working.
Life doesn’t give any of us any guarantees. Neither does homeschooling.
I could wax poetic about how homeschooling is a departure from the norm, and how departing from the norm feels risky. But you already know that. You’re just going to have to deal with it.
There is absolutely no way to be a successful homeschooler if you aren’t a passionate, lifelong learner in your own right. You have to love learning. You have to be excited about making new discoveries, new connections. You have to enjoy exploring the world around you. You must have interests of your own that you doggedly pursue.
If you have what it takes to be a successful homeschooler, you also realize that you can’t do it alone. You need a supportive community of other homeschoolers. You can join my group, The Self-Directed Homeschooler’s Hub, by clicking on the group’s name.
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Before you buy this booklet, you need to know that I am an unabashed proponent of self-directed learning and that will be reflected in everything I share about my own experiences as a homeschooler.
I’m giving this disclaimer so you aren’t surprised by the clear bias I have toward unschooling.
I want you to know, upfront, what you’re getting and what to expect from me. The advice I give and the questions I ask you to ask yourself are all valuable and valid no matter what style of homeschooling you ultimately embrace, though.
About the Author
Becky Ogden has been homeschooling since 2003, and graduated her oldest in the spring of 2017. In her early years of homeschooling, she too struggled with feeling overwhelmed and inept. In trying to do right by her children, Becky found herself embroiled in battle after battle with them over their schoolwork. Until…
Until she found a better way. One that empowered her children to self-direct their own educations. One that respected their autonomy. One based in “right on time” rather than “just in case” learning.
Without many veteran homeschoolers around to serve as mentors, Becky had to muddle through it on her own. She spent hours of time in research and reflection.
In the years since then, helping other homeschoolers find their own way and solve their problems has become a source of great joy for her.
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