How 4 Emotional Enemies In Your Mind Are Destroying Your Homeschool…And What To Do About It - The Self-Directed Homeschooler

How 4 Emotional Enemies In Your Mind Are Destroying Your Homeschool…And What To Do About It

Ever heard the old saying, “You are your own worst enemy”?

On those days when homeschooling isn’t going quite so well, the temptation will be to look at your kids, your curricula, or your house for what’s ailing your poor, little homeschool.


Your kids are fighting - with each other and you!

Your curricula is teacher-intensive and your time is already taxed.  Or, your kids just hate it because it’s boring.

Your house constantly looks like the aftermath in a war zone.  Or, maybe it should be condemned.  Regardless, you can’t keep up with the cleaning, and it’s suffocating.

Yeah, all of that might be true.  And addressing each of those might bring some relief.  The bigger problem when homeschooling isn’t going so well is probably you.

There’s good news and bad news with that.

The good news is that you have the power to change you.

The bad news is that you have to choose to change you.

You can start by assessing these four “emotional enemies,” as success guru Jim Rohn calls them, dwelling in your own mind.


It’s never ideal to operate from a position of fear in any area of your life.  Decisions made from a position of fear are likely to be terrible decisions.  For some ideas on how to conquer your fear, check out my article, 5 Ways To Keep Fear Of Failure From Holding You Back From Homeschooling Success.


I’m just going to go out on a limb here and say that if you are at all like I am, most of the problems you are having with homeschooling are happening because you have gotten lazy or complacent. 

Your kids are taking their cues from you.  Your curricula is using you, rather than you using it.  Your house is just waiting for someone to care enough to clean it.  We need a swift kick in the ass to get us back on track.


Rohn says, “Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise.”  When you dither, you miss out.

Just do the next thing.  Start.

The deadline for that co-op or field trip passes.  The sale for that book you wanted ends.  Your kids somehow end up registered for school again...because you never got around to filing your affidavit of intent to homeschool.

Whatever it is, you missed out because you couldn’t make a decision. Now, just for hoots and hollers, go check out how my youngest rocks her decision making process.  

If she can do it, so can you.


How can you be fully committed to homeschooling if you’re still harboring doubts about whether or not you’re up for the task? 

How can you expect your kids to trust you as their guide and mentor if you doubt your own ability to lead them?

You’ve got to stop being your own worst enemy.  When homeschooling isn’t going so well for you, hit the pause button and reflect upon yourself.  What are you actually bringing to your homeschool?

Now, three things:

  1. After you've had a chance to think about it, hit me up with a comment below about what you do that makes everything more difficult for yourself as a homeschooler.
  2. If you got any value from this post, please do me a favor and share it with someone else who can be blessed by it!
  3. If you’d like some help getting started on the right track, you can claim your free copy of my guide, 5 Steps To Becoming A Confident, Successful Homeschooler, by clicking the link below. 

About the Author Becky

I'm a married, homeschooling mama of three who is passionate about self-directed learning.

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  • Before you buy this booklet, you need to know that I am an unabashed proponent of self-directed learning and that will be reflected in everything I share about my own experiences as a homeschooler.

    I’m giving this disclaimer so you aren’t surprised by the clear bias I have toward unschooling.  

    I want you to know, upfront, what you’re getting and what to expect from me.  The advice I give and the questions I ask you to ask yourself are all valuable and valid no matter what style of homeschooling you ultimately embrace, though.  

  • About the Author

    Becky Ogden has been homeschooling since 2003, and graduated her oldest in the spring of 2017.  In her early years of homeschooling, she too struggled with feeling overwhelmed and inept. In trying to do right by her children, Becky found herself embroiled in battle after battle with them over their schoolwork.  Until…

    Until she found a better way.  One that empowered her children to self-direct their own educations.  One that respected their autonomy. One based in “right on time” rather than “just in case” learning.

    Without many veteran homeschoolers around to serve as mentors, Becky had to muddle through it on her own.  She spent hours of time in research and reflection.

    In the years since then, helping other homeschoolers find their own way and solve their problems has become a source of great joy for her.

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